How to Stop Taking on the Energy of Others

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Do you often find yourself taking on the energy of the people surrounding you? Do you find yourself making others problems your problems or do you often feel anxious around others and unable to find your “center?”  You are in great company! People are waking up to their empathic nature in order to heal energy they don’t need to carry forward.

In today’s society, many people live from the outside in, which means they are constantly looking outside of themselves to gain acceptance, validity, and purpose. Living a life where you’re consumed with ungrounded experiences and expectations can leave you feeling drained, overwhelmed, confused. Other symptoms may include blockages, unprocessed emotions and fear-based beliefs held in the lower body. When we stop absorbing unwanted emotions that don’t serve or benefit us, we can begin to focus on the things that truly matter. We become free and able to focus on our goals and dreams.

As the oldest daughter of eight children in an Italian-American household, I started babysitting at 12 years old and helped my family financially. I became popular with the parents because I was responsible and mature at a very young age. I found myself taking care of everyone around me, and I never got a chance to relax and just be a kid. Then, I went to college in Boston and plunged into student responsibilities leading to panic attacks in school. At 19, I had a nervous breakdown, and in my recovery, I experienced a profound calling from within my heart to move to Colorado. I had never been there, but I knew I was going to be okay and I felt there was something bigger guiding me. It was at this time I had an angel encounter, spiritually awoke and started the path of learning about my sensitivities and abilities. I learned that my over-sensitivity was actually untapped power and gradually, I developed and strengthened my intuition. I began to trust myself, gain confidence and open up to my gifts of being of an intuitive healer.

I share this story because you too can learn to step into and develop your power. In my experience with clients, most have suppressed aspects of themselves resulting in over-giving and excessive helping. When you don’t take time to nurture your intuition, the critical mind – let’s call it the Monkey Mind – is overactive. You may be very familiar with the sabotaging nature of the Monkey Mind. It usually chatters thoughts that decrease confidence; such as, “You can’t do that!” / “You can’t have that!” / “Be a good girl/boy.”

The monkey mind, however, is a collection of your unresloved energy blocks, conditioning and issues held in the energetic body. What’s more is this energy in you blocks your ability to occupy those spaces in your body and have your light. As a result this energy attracts the energy of others. To stop taking on the energy of others, the energy in the energetic body must be cleared so more of your power can embody and radiate

There is so much freedom in healing your unresolved issues so you can become the best version of yourself and truly hone the gift of being an empath. Staying grounded in your own energy and surrounding yourself with people who compliment your journey help you lead a more empowering, authentic life. When you start to live life from the inside out, you will gain more clarity and begin to live a more fulfilling life.

It’s no secret that some people will fill you with energy while others will drain you because they need your energy to survive. When you take on someone’s energy in an unhealthy way, it’s important to know how to clear it out. Always remember that you have the power to choose who gets to stay in your life. Set emotional boundaries so that you protect yourself so you don’t feel disconnected from your power.

How you protect yourself

Have you taken time to examine the underlying beliefs that keep you over empathizing with others at the expense of your own connection? When you choose to connect to your true self instead of the beliefs you were taught or told to believe, you can begin to thrive and walk in your own power.

For the first half of my life, I spent a lot of time apologizing for everything, as if I was somehow responsible for every little upset or mishap. I could deeply empathize with other people’s struggles and would become so overwhelmed I would have to leave the room. I also remember feeling overwhelmed in crowds and feeling distraught over loud noises.

I felt over-sensitive and emotional, somewhat like a sponge for other people’s energies.  Honestly, I thought there was something wrong with me. Over the years, I’ve learned to protect myself from harmful energy by using techniques to help stay grounded and centered.

Take the time soon to evaluate your experiences after spending time with someone – family or work or a friend. Ask yourself, “Do I feel uplifted or do I feel heavy and drained?” Ultimately you are feeling heavy or drained because you are being triggered to see that there is some unhealed energy in you that is attracting negative energy.  It’s not about the other person at all. It’s about the empaths ability to hold their center and their light so that they don’t lose their power around others. What surfaces to the foreground is the toxic energy living in us and needs to surface to clear.

Being an empath is a special gift. When you learn to shift the lifelong pattern of taking on other’s energy, you can set boundaries and fully align with your own energy. By using clearing techniques, you’ll be able to tap into your own power and you’ll be able to transform negative energy into positive energy. To be successful in the journey to being comfortable with your gift, it requires you to being present, expanded, grounded and clearing out the energy in the lower chakras. Once you become more comfortable with your feelings and who you are, you can be ok with others being who they are.

Have you had success in not taking on other’s energy? We’d love to hear to hear your success stories for staying centered, calm and in your own power.


If you are interested in learning why your system is taking on the energy of others and want to learn tools you can use to clear energy in your body, join a FREE call with the Shift Network on Called:  Reclaiming Your Power as an Empath: Discover 5 Steps to Transform Karmic Wounds, Detox Heavy Emotions & Set Healthy Boundaries on Saturday, Aug 25th.  

In this free video event, you’ll discover:

  • The 5 karmic wounds most overly empathic people carry with them — and how you can begin to clear these “contracts”
  • The reasons you automatically absorb other people’s energy, causing you to feel ungrounded, disempowered, or depressed
  • How to further transform energy blocks in your second chakra, so you can set and maintain healthy boundaries, feel grounded and safe, and create deeper intimacy with others
  • How to learn to intuitively read energy without taking it on — so you can share your healing gifts with others
  • A guided practice for detoxing heavy emotions (such as fear, shame, and guilt) — and resetting your emotional center

Save my spot and notify me when there is an opportunity to hear it again if I can’t make it live!

Please don’t miss this powerful event to discover how you can clear the specific blocks that empaths deal with (including karmic wounds and trauma) so that you can fully ground yourself as an empathic healer!

Wendy De Rosa

Wendy De Rosa’s School of Intuitive Studies, a Colorado school of healing arts helps all forms of traditional healthcare providers (doctors, nurses and physician’s assistance) as well as mental health professionals, complementary and alternative medicine and holistic health practitioners and hands on healers (massage therapist, acupuncturist, chiropractor, Reiki master, energy healers…) with developing strong intuition and learning how to open your heart.

She does this through certification level, intuitive healer training programs and online courses for learning how to develop intuition, how to open your heart, discover the power of the heart center, how to clear negative energy and clearing emotional blocks that may be getting in the way of, not only a thriving healing arts and medical practice that fine tunes your ability to serve clients and patients at a whole new level, but your own sense of self, life purpose and personal well being.

Wendy DeRosa’s School of Intuitive Studies, is a Colorado school of healing arts based in Boulder, CO.  It serves a national and international healing community through online courses and intuitive healer training programs.

The School of Intuitive Studies serves Colorado and the WORLD.  If you would like to learn more about how to open your heart chakra and heart chakra healing, check out the School Of Intuitive  Studies Programs here.

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